There have been countless books written on positive thinking. It has been reiterated so many times how important this is in our lives. But despite these repetitive reminders, why do we constantly insist on looking at the glass as half-empty? Is it easier to worry than to be grateful? Based on our general feeling of inadequacy and insecurity, it seems that human beings are programmed to lean towards the negative aspect of most situations we are dealt with. We tend to view the bad side automatically instead of thinking of the things we should be grateful for. We seem to take for granted the blessings that we have been endowed with and focus on the worries, especially when things don’t go as planned. When they do, we consider it as the normal thing to happen; and when they don’t, all hell breaks loose. We throw a tantrum, curse the gods, hurl objects across the room, and consider ourselves the unluckiest person in the world. Isn’t it ironic that out of all the events that occur to us, we usually remember the hurtful or the embarrassing ones? If they are the ones that stick in our minds, shouldn’t they be considered the normal ones? Hence, we should not be thinking much of them since they are the usual occurrences according to our irrational line of reasoning.
Having established that the way we think isn’t as logical as we aspire it to be, it would be quite a refreshing notion to try to change it. It sounds easy and is actually really easy only if we are prepared to set our minds into welcoming a new way of looking at things. In other words, we simply set into motion the notions of our forefathers that thinking positively not only provides health benefits, but also intensely decreases the long, torturous hours of useless anxiety and worrying. The simplest start is to avoid all forms of judgment. It is common for us to lie awake at night wondering what we said that upset someone at a party or fuming at a comment uttered by an acquaintance at a meeting. The truth is, we may not have anything to do with it at all. Some people just have many things to deal with at the moment which we know nothing about. They may be going through a divorce, financial difficulties, or work problems. In any case, if it really has something to do with us, if we had no intention of causing any harm, then there is nothing to worry about. We cannot control how other people perceive us. In the same way, if they say something we consider unfavorable, they are still entitled to their opinion, just as we are — just as everyone is. We have to not take it personally. How a person behaves or what he says is a reflection of his character or his experiences. It is always about him, not about us.
It is also a good idea to keep a journal. Writing down our thoughts is a good alternative to airing out all our problems to a friend. Putting our fears and troubles to paper has a healing effect. We get to vent out every single thing and feel unburdened afterwards. The next step is to list down our dreams. Thinking about them and imagining the road towards their achievement puts us in a very hopeful and anticipative state. Aside from writing, visualizing also helps in both thinking positively and reaching these goals. In a nutshell, our state of mind, whether positive or negative, is up to us. If we practice looking at the bright side of things, soon it will become a habit and we will be on our way to a state of positivity that we have only dared to dream not so long ago.